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Inspire The Uninspired

Tiffany's ongoing series of informational entries

Describe This Chapter of Your Life in One Word

May 22nd,  2020

I posted on Facebook a few days ago to “Describe this chapter of your life in one word,” and the responses I received were amazing. The word that I chose was “Increase,” because the meaning of increase is to become or make greater, and after turning forty-two, everything has started to become greater for me. For example, I became a Certified Career Services Provider and a blogger on Extreme Otiti website, which was a big deal for me. I’m also working on another project that will be announced this fall. We are only five months into 2020, and I’m still thinking of ways to accomplish so much more.


One of the readers used the word “Chosen” because she has won the fight with Cancer twice in four years and is doing great in remission. Another reader’s word was “Peaceful” because she released some old baggage that she was holding onto and is now living her best life. One of my favorite responses was from a former student. Her word was “Commitment” because she just started a non-profit business to help disadvantaged kids. I’m so proud of all these ladies for describing and sharing the chapter of life that they’re currently in. The ladies had great words, and I know some of the meanings behind their words, and I know they will work hard to accomplish all that their heart desire.

My next chapter will start in September, and I am looking forward to what it may bring.


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Blog Entry By: Tiffany D. Hampton


Quarantine & Make Your Time Useful!

May 6, 2020

Did you ever stop and think that during this quarantine, you could get so much done? A month ago, I tried to find every reason to stay home from work to too lay in my bed, and here I am today tired of laying in my bed. We must be careful of what we ask God for because it may come to pass. None of us expected to get a break like this. So, with your break, what are you going to do? I have some ideas and examples of what you could do while you are quarantine.


First, you could declutter your home room by room. For example, I did my kitchen on Monday. I started with the cabinets throwing out things that were out of date and giving away things I knew I wasn’t going to cook. Next, it was the pot and pans. If I didn’t use any of the pot or pans in 2019, I knew I wasn’t going to use them now. Also, the kitchen junk draw needed to be cleaned out and organized. After doing that, we wiped down everything we swept and mopped. That’s a whole day's worth of work, I promise you. The living room was next dusting and throwing stuff that I thought was no longer needed. The Hardest room was my room with all of me and my husband’s clothes, shoes, comforters, etc. in there. That is still an ongoing process for next week as well. So, try and see if you can go room by room, decluttering your space.


Next, once your space is cleaned, you can think of something you always wanted to do but didn’t have the time. Like, take an online class to better your self in something, or to learn something different. I’m taking this time to learn the ins and outs of blogging. I get up in the morning and do my morning routines, and then I start reading or listening to podcasts about blogging. I think if I research and continue to write my blogs every day or every other day, I will soon become a full-time blogger eventually. We must learn that when we get some extra time, that is when we work what is near and dear to our hearts. It’s our year for the perfect vision, so don’t let anything stop you with your dreams and goals.


The last thing you could try is taking some time for yourself because, with all the crazy things that are going on in the world, you must be mentally, physically, and financially ready for it all. For my peace of mind, I meditate early in the mornings when I wake up. When I get into the shower, I ask Alexa to play meditation music. It relaxes me and helps me to get my mind ready for the day. For me to stay healthy, I try to get in 10,000 steps a day with 30 -45 minutes of cardio and drink two liters of water. Most days, I get it done, but I always plan my day accordingly. Financially I’m trying to pay off some of my debt to raise my credit score a little more and save up three months of emergency funds. In all, take this time and use it wisely. 


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Blog Entry By: Tiffany D. Hampton


When Will You Start Loving Yourself? 

April 28, 2020 

Why is that we take care of everyone else before we take care of ourselves? How is it

that we can love others and not love ourselves? When does it stop, and when will the self-love

begin? Google’s definition of self-love is taking care of our own needs and not sacrificing your

well being to please others. Therefore, we should learn to love our self first, so we can then take

care of others and learn to love others.


Self-love is not the easiest to gain back. It is a painful birth of your new self. To love

yourself, you must first look back on the things that have kept you from loving yourself. The

things that have kept you from loving yourself may not be your happiest moments, but you got

through them. They may be bad thoughts about yourself, and you must overcome those thoughts.

Things have happened in our past, but we must learn to move on or find someone to assist us to heal from our past. Self-love is difficult, but it is necessary.


On my journey to acquiring self-love, there were specific steps that I followed, which ultimately increased the love that I have for myself. First, I started telling people no; that I couldn’t do whatever they asked of me at the time. If I had something more important to do, I did that first, and then I handled their needs if it wasn’t an emergency. Next, I started enjoying my quiet time. On the weekends, the kids would go with their grand-parents, and I would enjoy my me time. I also started traveling with a few of my friends for a “girls weekend get-away” which was so much fun. I spoiled myself every two weeks: manicure, pedicure, hair, massage, etc.


Taking care of yourself plays a big part in learning how to love yourself, and a lot of people do not do it. If you take care of yourself, you will be the best version of yourself. When you are the best version of yourself, that’s when you can give love to others

unconditionally. You can also receive love differently once you learn to love yourself.


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Sometimes

April 17, 2020 

I had to lose in all four aspects of my life (physically, mentally, emotional, spiritual) before I could win. For instance, in the physical aspect of my life, I stopped being active and gained over 50lbs and became very unhealthy. All I wanted to do was eat out and lay around watching television. I also have a desk job, so I snack all day, and that helped me add on some pounds.


Mentally/Emotional I lost because I was trying to control everything, and everyone and I developed anxiety. I learned that I was exhausted and stressed and needed rest, but wasn’t trying to hear that, but the anxiety slowed me down, and I got the rest I needed. Spiritual I lost because I stopped going to church and stayed in bed on Sundays. Fast Forward to my winning season. Physically I’m winning because I have lost 30lbs due to walking five miles a day, drinking two liters a day, and cooking at healthy meals home. It took me a year to lose the 30lbs and keep it off. 


I must stay consistent with my meals, walking, and water to maintain my healthy lifestyle. Mentally /Emotionally, I’m winning because I’m no longer taking anxiety meds, because I have learned to meditate, relax, focus my energy on positive things. Spiritually I’m winning because I have started back attending church regularly, and my faith in God became so strong. I had to lose everything, including my material things such as a house, cars,

relationships, clothes, etc. for God to replace them with better.


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How To Stop Giving Life TO Dead Relationships?

March 16, 2020 

Have you ever noticed that if you don’t call or text someone first, you will not hear from them? I call this a one-sided friendship or relationship because you are the only one trying to

reach out to the other individual. Maybe the friendship or relationship has run its course. I apply this quote “People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime” to any relationship or friendship that I’m involved in. So, if you find yourself in a dead relationship or friendship, please consider ending it altogether, because you are going to wear yourself out continuously checking on someone who doesn’t check on you.


For example, I had a friend who I considered to be a very close friend, but every time she went through something, I was there without any hesitation. She could call me for anything for instance Tip I a need ride, Tip can I borrow this, Tip can you do that, etc., but never once did she asked me do, I need anything, or did she say here you go Tip for always doing whatever I asked you to do. I finally realized that it was a one-sided friendship when I needed her. I was at my lowest point, and she was nowhere to be found. I called on her numerous times, and she always seemed to be too busy, so once I got myself together, I knew I had to reevaluate our friendship.


First, I stopped calling and texting her to see if she would reach out to me first. A week or two went by no call or text from her, so at that point, I knew I was the only one making sure we stayed in touch. I figured her reason we were friends was that I was a good asset to her, but she wasn’t an asset to me. 


Second, I started feeling disappointed that a friendship we had for so long had come to an end, but then I realize that maybe our friendship was seasonal, and I needed to enjoy and spend time with people who wanted to be in my life.


Third, when we finally got around to seeing each other, she was like hi girl what you been up to, and I replied nothing girl busy working and trying to survive, so she responded with ok take care. Wow was my reaction, and at that point, I knew I could never call or text her again because she was doing fine without calling or texting me.


Remember, a good relationship or friendship is hard to find, and if you find yourself in a one-sided friendship or relationship, please reevaluate your situation. Stop calling or texting them

first, and see if they reach out to you. If you see that, they’re not coming around or calling find new like-minded friends that wan to be with you and calls and text you first. They’re not the

only people in the world to be friends or be in a relationship with. When you see them after a period of no conversation, make sure to speak, keep it cordial, and tell them to have a Blessed Day.


Stop giving life to something dead for a long time, and we were to busy lending a helping hand until we don’t realize the relationship or friendship was dead.

How To Change Your Mindset To Get To The Next Level? 

March 15, 2020


As I attended The Leaders Conference in Orangeburg, S.C., March 12- 14, 2020

Hosted by Otiti Uwagbai Wright so much great information was given, and what the majority of the great speaker’s mention was your mindset. When I got up this morning, I knew I wanted to blog about a person’s mindset. Goggle’s definition of mindset is the established set of attitudes held by someone. My definition of mindset is your thought process. Goggles also say we can have a fixed mindset or growth mindset, depending on the situations we go through in life. A fixed mindset is when people believe their qualities cannot be changed, and a growth mindset is when people believe that their learning and intelligence can grow with time and experience. 


For example, fifteen years ago, my mindset changed from a fixed mindset to a growth

mindset because of the difficult life changes I’ve been through. I used to wake up every morning, thinking everyone else was the blame for my unsuccessful life, but it was all me. I had two kids by twenty-seven and was working to full-time jobs; one was in a Manufacturing company, and the other was at a gas station. By working those two full-time jobs, they kept me away from my kids, and I didn’t realize what I was doing to them. I knew things had to change but didn’t know-how.


I talked with my mother often, and she would always say it’s not about how much money you

make for your kids. It’s about the time and the memories you make with them. At that point, I

had to change my mindset to find a way to make enough money to take care of my kids and

spend quality time with them.


First, I had to figure out how I can become a better person, because once I figure out who

I was, and what I wanted to be this process would go smoothly. I knew I always wanted to work in the school system but not be a teacher, so, I decided to become an Administrative Assistant. Second, I set some short-term goals and long-term goals to accomplish. My short-term goal was to go back and finish college, and the long-term goal was to find an 8 am-5 pm job where I can spend more time with my kids. Third, I had to create new habits and a new mindset to achieve the things that I needed to get to my next level. After I figured out what I wanted to do, all I had to do was stick to my growth mindset to achieve everything I wanted. Don’t get me wrong, bad things will happen, and your fixed mindset will try to take over and have you thinking you need to give up. If you continue to think about the reasons you changed your mindset in the first place, eventually you will get back on track.

Remember, write down what you want to achieve out of life. Then set some goals in to play

and work towards them. Lastly, create new habits and start to associate yourself with like-minded people that are where you want to be in life. Also, try to stay focus so you can get to the next level in your life and get everything that you worked so hard for.