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Your Gift Will Make Room For You. By Otiti 

October 16th, 2019

What's your gift? I often believe that our gift, purpose, vision, passion, and purpose are intertwined together. If we are in alignment with what we believe we already possess- we achieve and win!

There is something in each of us that we need to release before we decease! I know that it is deep- but very accurate.

Les Brown said:

“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.”

What are you holding on to or stopping yourself from becoming? I don't care if you do not have a college degree or an academic focus- you can be whatever you like! Now, don't get me wrong, if you desire a college a degree, GO FOR IT! I have several. What I am saying is do not allow that to stop you or be an excuse.

Too many times, we pick the silliest excuse as to why we are stuck or in the same place. No one is stopping you or me! In fact, we need to get out of our own way and take a chance. We need to take a chance, and as we all know, life will require many risks. Times will be uncomfortable; we will lose friends and many of us- the respect from some of our family members. Hell, you may even have health problems due to stress, overdue bills, and $1.00 in your account- but you should keep going.

You must handle the pressure. Whatever you are seeking, you can do it. There will always be opposition, trials, and tribulations- but should you stop? The best thing in life is on the other side of opposition. The best things in life are on the other side of pain, hurt, divorce, job loss, and everything else that's uncomfortable.

Are you ready to allow your gift to make room for you?

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Labels: Hoarder, Declutterer, Minimalist or Releaser 

by Ellen Lancanster

October 15th, 2019

A friend of my sister's mentioned she is not a hoarder, but not a releaser. We watch Hoarders on TV and think, I don't have it that bad! Who is to say if we are happy and at peace with the stuff in our home, but us.

The word "minimalist" can conquer up extreme living. There are different levels of minimalism, but why do we label ourselves and put ourselves into a category? People are happy with different levels of clutter. Maybe someone isn't a releaser but at the same time, they don't have a lot of items in their home. Or people have lots of stuff in their home, but love it all and are happy. I often refer to decluttering but I also like releasing items out into the world. It feels kinder.

Words and names are important to us and we can resonate with them. I feel a certain way when a word is written or said whether it is positive, negative or neutral. Does it matter what words we use? Karen Kingston blogs about the advantages of reducing word clutter and Gretchin Rubin has a word of the year challenge.

Some of us want to be included in something larger. We want support and accountability. We want a connection with others in the same situation and we do that with association. In this way, we identify what we want.

Let's not let words and labels get in the way of our goals. If a simple home is what you want, commit to it and get help if needed! There are even 12-step programs for Clutterers Anonymous.

Your challenge this week is to identify your level of comfort with your items in your home. Here is my 3-minute video to help with clutter assessment.

Thanks for reading and please share if you think someone else will find useful. ~Ellen

For more inspiration: Clearing Clutter's Facebook page

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Is Bigger Better by Ellen Lancanster

October 2nd, 2019

Is Bigger Better?

Houses in the US are getting bigger according to this article. But is bigger always better? Maybe we just need to get rid of 1/2 our stuff and our home will seem 50% bigger!

Minimalist blogger Josh Becker suggests downsizing and moving to a smaller home. This is after you declutter & reduce your possessions. This is a huge step and something I would not consider, however, I have two friends that are doing this right now. They are in the process of reducing their stuff so that they can live in smaller homes. This is the ultimate in letting go and minimizing and I admire them for it. At this point, for our family of four and a dog, we are not ready to live in a smaller home, but maybe someday.

My friend lives in a tiny home by herself. However, she doesn't recommend living in such a small place for more than one person. But it works for her.

Would you ever intentionally live in a smaller home? Is this considered successful?

And a challenge if you are up for it: If you were to move to a smaller home within the next 6 months, what would absolutely NOT go with you? Toss, donate or sell these items.

Ellen Lancanster

Our Latest Blog Entry

September 29th, 2019

I am honored to be the person that I am today. I know that sounds "self-absorbing" but I truly am. It took a lot to get here! Tears, pain, brokenness, low-self esteem, insecurities, and the list go on and on. I was in a funk for years and boom the winning mindset became my best friend. Literally! Over the years, I had to learn how to put me first. How to make myself a priority before everyone else. I took small actions, and began the journey for a better "ME."

This process is everlasting and ongoing. It does not stop because you reach a certain level of success. Oh no! This process believe it or not- will show outwardly! Have you ever heard the saying what you eat will show? Well, how you feel about yourself will show. How you treat yourself will show. It will show up in many areas of your life- TRUST ME!

I had to open my mind to possibilities even when it did not look nor feel good in my life.

Creating a winning mindset is work and once you get the hang of it- it's like the air you breathe. In a nutshell, the process is called inner-peace. It's the everyday actions that you take to restore and maintain your inner-peace.

Inner-peace is both tangible and intangible. You can see and feel peace. Here are a couple of quick tips to apply to your every day living to keep your peace intact:

Be honest with yourself. POINT BLANK. Listen, the hardest person to tell the truth to is yourself. I am not saying beat yourself up- but acknowledge your honesty, truthfulness, and the roles you may have played in particular situations.

Clutter! You will never know how important it is to have your space and environment clutter-free. This is why I partnered with Ellen Lancanster of Declutter my Home. You cannot make sound decisions live appropriately if you are not organized. I don't know what else to tell you about that.

Embrace who you are both good and not-so good. You are not perfect. I am not perfect. No one is perfect. Take responsibility for who you are. You may have made poor decisions- guess what? You are not alone and chances are "poor decision-making" may happen again.

How can you show-up more for you? 

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It's Cute AND It's On Sale By Ellen Lancanster 

September 25th, 2019

I used to shop without a list. What is on sale and looks good? I also used to walk around stores if I had time to kill in between errands or waiting for the kids to finish their activities. I told myself that I'll just look to see what is on the discount rack. Many times I would end up purchasing something that I didn't need. Now I look at my closet before I go shopping to see what I need.

This JC Penny's CEO tried a retail tactic: no sales or fake increased pricing in the store. Just everyday low prices. It failed and he was removed as CEO. Why? People love to find a bargain. This Harvard business review article states that the perceived price is just as important as the actual price to customers.

One friend says she gets a dopamine rush from finding an item at a good price. At the same time, almost in the same breathe, she said that she is overwhelmed by the clutter in her home. How do you accommodate both of these feelings? What else can we do that is positive instead of shopping?

Here are some alternatives to shopping:



visit a park

take deep breaths


listen to a podcast

watch a movie

make a gratitude list

call a friend

play with your pets


listen to music or an audiobook

Your challenge: make your own list of fun, easy activities to do instead of shopping. Keep this list at the ready, in your car or on your phone. Next time you are tempted to go shopping when you don't need anything, pull out this list and do something else. Your wallet will thank you!

I appreciate you reading. ~Ellen

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Clearing Clutter The Right Way by Ellen Lancanster

September 10th, 2019

There are several different suggestions on how to get rid of clutter and minimize your home. Do you gather like items together and sort in a certain order? Or is it best room by room, easiest to hardest? Do it all at once as quick as possible or is it more of a marathon? I want someone to tell me what to do and step by step. I am good at following instructions. Except everyone is different and what works for one person might not work for another.

For months I was following Marie Kondo's order to tidying up the home. However, I got caught up in her miscellaneous section and stopped there. I had been overwhelmed and wanted to declutter in the right order that when it came down to it, no decluttering had been done at all. It was the perfectionist in me. I need to let this go!

I was in my sewing area recently looking for some thread and noticed it was a mess. I didn't care if sewing items were not next on my list; I had about 15 minutes and went through all my material, clothes to be mended and sewing accessories. One bag got donated and 1/2 a bag went in the garbage. It felt good. This area is much better. I'm wondering why it took me so long to declutter this area. I know, I have wondered this before.

We have all heard this before: written goals are more likely to come to fruition than non-written goals. So why not write down how we plan to simplify our home with less stuff? If we are serious about having more space in our home, it is worth it. Looking back, I wrote my miscellaneous category order list, but didn't put target dates to have them finished nor did I put the list in a place that I would see daily.

Challenge: Write down the order in which you will clear the clutter from your home. Set realistic dates to target for each area or category. Now keep this somewhere that you will see regularly (phone screen saver). We can do this together!

Thanks for reading & share with others if you found helpful. ~Ellen 

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