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College-bound Student

By Ellen Lancaster

August 21st, 2019 

College-Bound Student? Send Them Off With This Advantage...

I heard of a family with five children who had a ” house rule” for the college-bound student. Before each scholar went off to college, they had to clean out their room. They would have to take everything with them or give it away before they left. Each child only had one large tote to store mementos in the attic. The reason the family established this rule initially was that other siblings wanted the room. The room was then painted and changed up for the next sibling. When their student came back for summer and holidays, they would not get their old room back, but instead, double up and get a suite to share with their siblings.

This family now has more rooms than students living at home, however, these rooms still get cleaned out and painted and converted into a home office, art room, etc. I love this idea of giving your young adult a jump start to life with less stuff to sort through later! Keep one tote and be done. What an opportune time to purge- during a transition! And here is a college packing list to avoid packing too much for a dorm room.

Another family I know did not have this rule and has one daughter that has lots of her stuff in her old room but doesn’t want to take the time to sort through it. She no longer calls their house her “home,” yet her stuff remains. Now she is willing to PAY her sister to sort it for her. Ugh!

This may be a tough-minded approach and I think it is helpful. I plan to do it with our daughters. This will help them have less to sort out later. Just the other night our younger daughter asked me if I would help paint her sister’s room & bedposts once her sister has left for college. 

Her sister is a Senior. I can’t believe it; in a year she will be off!

Another Mom said to her college-bound student, “take only items you want to keep.” Everything left would be given away. But this leaves more work to clean up! I say, please leave the room clean and show them where the give-away bin is located (if they don’t already know!)

Your mission this week is to chat with your children about this idea. Plant the seed. Starting life with less baggage will be an advantage. If you have no children at home, think about the purpose of each room/space in your home and ask yourself if you utilize the space for its purpose.

Thanks for reading and please share if you know someone that this could help! ~Ellen

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Love Them But Can’t Live With Them!

By Ellen Lancaster

August 14th, 2019 

Do you ever wish that something will work for you, but for one reason or another it just doesn’t? A cute corner table, but you don’t have a corner without a window that it will fit in your home, or a haircut looks good on your girlfriend, but when you try it out it doesn’t look the same on you? Well, I got these shoes recently because they are super cute. I love the neutral color since they will go with everything. I value leather and good quality. I appreciate that they make my feet look small (I am a size 11). However, all that to say and the first time I wore them I had 2 blisters by the end of the day! I could not wait to get them off! It was not worth it no matter how adorable. So into the donation bin, they went. If something tugs, straps fall, or if it just doesn’t look right, no matter how much I love them, it just won’t fly for me.

We need to find what works for us individually. I was talking with my Aunt Dottie recently about shoes since she just released 43 pairs! Go, Auntie! I was so surprised at the amount. She didn’t want to give them to a donation center, however. She offered them to friends in her community. She wanted someone she knew to enjoy them. For me, I just want them out of the house as fast as possible. I didn’t want to be reminded of my mistake and oh, how I wish they would have worked…she, on the other hand, had the storage space and wanted to see them bring joy to another person. So she waited until the opportunity came when there was a community gathering and then offered them up. Is one way right and the other wrong? NO, they are both getting stuff out the door, just at different paces and in different ways. What way will work for you? I would love to hear about your ‘love it, but leave it’ stories.

Your challenge this week: go through all your shoes (even out of season) & tell me how many pairs are out the door. Also HOW you are getting rid of them.

Here’s to owning shoes that you love and that love you back!~ Ellen

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More About Ellen!

It all started when Ellen’s kids were in preschool and they came home with copious amounts of artwork and worksheets. She was overwhelmed by the sheer volume of paper so she began searching for solutions. Growing up Ellen’s family did not exchange holiday gifts after age 18, but instead went on family vacations together. This focus on experiences and not material stuff made an impact. Fast forward 13 years and Ellen now writes a weekly blog about clearing clutter which has inspired women all over the country. She coaches & encourages women to rid their home of unwanted clutter. This, in turn, can lead to peace at home, deepening of relationships, and having more energy and enthusiasm for living your adventures!

Ellen enjoys the outdoors and lives with her husband, 2 teenage daughters and their Goldendoodle in the Pacific Northwest.

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Personal Development

How's Your Confidence? 

January 15, 2018

How’s Your Confidence? Before you answer, the definition of confidence is the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something. How’s your confidence- can you rely on you to achieve your goals? Can you rely on yourself to aim high when life gets tough? Can you rely on yourself and not the validation of others? Honestly, our self-confidence breaks down during trials and tribulations. Here are some great tips:

*Work on your time-management. Schedule and leave room for reschedules.

*Stop procrastination as much as possible. If you say, you’re going to complete x, y, z- schedule and complete.

*Reduce your stress as much as possible. I know it’s easier said than done- but it can be done if you work on yourself daily.

Now you have some key tools to monitor and build your self-confidence. Learn how to rely on yourself first before depending on others. If you are not willing to do it for you- don’t expect others to be there.

Channel Your Inner-Self!

February 14, 2018

Channel your inner self by being intentional with yourself. Declare your goals, purpose, vision, and dreams. No one better than you can channel your inner self. Let me guess; you’re wondering what does channel your inner-self means? Doing what makes you happy and the ability to remain in that happy place when situations happen. Have you ever been happy and then boom- life happens, and you feel as if your world is crashing down…yes, you are not alone. The next time this happens (and I’m quite sure it will) channel your inner self by doing the following:

*Take a couple of deep breaths to release the tension from your body. Make sure your shoulders are away from your ears. Apply a couple of forward and backward shoulder rolls to release stress.

*Remove yourself from the situation both physically and mentally if possible (sometimes a change of environment for a moment does a mind, body, and soul some good).

*Create a music playlist that will lift your spirits; download at least ten mins worth of songs and dance. This will help take your mind of the particular situation. Make sure its music that lifts your spirits.

Don't wait- practice this right now. Oh, create your playlist so you can have it handy when the time comes. 

Do You Desire More? 

March 15, 2018

Do you desire more? And by more, I meaning elevation. Whatever elevation looks like for you, that’s what I am asking. Listen, many of us believe that “desiring more” is selfish and I am here to tell you it’s not. Think about the world we live in and how it's continually evolving. Do you remember when we or our parents used the rotary phone and now we’re using digital landlines, and cellular devices? The world has significantly changed and continues to change while you’re reading. So, now my question is, do you desire more? As the time change, do you have a higher desire to do more? It’s okay to want more while having gratitude for what you already have. Here’s what you can do to challenge yourself to achieve or at least focus on your desires more:

*Write down your desires.

*Sit and concentrate on your desires.

*Meditate after completing steps one and two.

*Create your blueprint to achieve your desire(s).

*Apply action at least 30 mins or more a day.

Remember you must repeat more than once- repetition is the key! 

What's Personal Development? 

March 15, 2018

Personal Development is the new word buzzing around the world. Everyone is not only talking about personal development, but many people are working diligently every day to increase their overall livelihood. So, what is “personal development?” 

Personal Development is enhancing your quality of life in all areas consistently. 

This includes physical and mental health, understanding and developing life potentials, and improving life skills. Extreme Otiti primary focus is developing strengths, fulfilling aspirations, and creating plans to execute goals or benchmarks during each life phase. Our organization creates implementable strategies for individuals seeking personal growth by utilizing actionable steps.

If you would like to start, begin with these three steps:

1. Decide that you will be intentional with your life.

2. Set small goals and celebrate each success.

3. Utilize self-help resources. 

Take The Mask Off.  

April 21, 2018

Take off the Mask and create your presence here on earth! You can hope for tomorrow but I need you to remember to live today to the fullest. Today I would like to celebrate you, elevate you, and empower you to increase in every aspect of your life.

Have you had a season of feeling lost, alone and confused? Allow me to ease your mind, you are never alone. Often struggles of life make one feel that they’re the only one struggling and that’s not the case. I’m sending you positive vibes and power to break free from anything that’s not adding value to your life.

Now, with all of the logistics out of the way! I would like to congratulate you if you’re still reading! This means that there’s some truth to what you are reading. Now is the time to release that “stagnant mindset” and move accordingly. What does that mean? Move forward.

How? How do I move forward? How do I push past what I believe are failures, poor decisions, low self-esteem, and other trials and tribulations of life? Here’s your simple answer: Decide what you will have starting now. That’s it! Easier said than done? Absolutely not! You have all of the power embedded within- you make the decision of what you will and will not take.

Let me ask you a question: What’s that one thing you need? Writer Mike Dooley (from The Secret) states thoughts become things. Here’s another question for you, where’s your attention? You read it correctly. “Where’s your attention? Before you answer, think about your bedtime- what are you thinking about when you are resting in bed prior to falling asleep? What are you thinking about when you awake in the morning? What are you thinking about while you’re driving to work or errands?

Now you can answer the question. If your thoughts are scattered, stressful, or negative; now is the time to be more intentional with your thoughts.


May 8, 2018

What are you doing to hold yourself, life, and everything else in the world together? Before you answer allow me to explain, I researched the word consistency and here is what I found: the meaning is the way in which a substance, typically liquid or water (H20 = hydrogen and oxygen). Imagine that life is a constant stream of flowing water like the ocean. Not one wave is the same but the consistency is the large body of water. To achieve greatness requires consistency. 

Here are my 10 key points to maintaining consistency:

C- Calm (Maintain your peace of mind, it's important)

O- Outstanding (Be great)

N- Non-resistance (Mean exactly what you say, think before you speak)

S- Simplicity (find something you love, and keep it simple)

I- Involved (Pay attention to your inner and outer self)

S- Self-confidence (illustrate pride in everything that you do)

T- Thoughts (negative thinking happens, correct your thinking immediately)

E- Engage(be with other like-minded individuals, separate from drama)

C- Cherish (you are unique in every aspect, appreciate you)

Y- Yift (Someone who doesn’t care what others think of them)

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Stress Management 

May 14, 2018

How does one reduce stress, and is all stress bad stress? After research, some stress is good stress. Yes, I know how in the heck any stress can be useful. Before we talk about good or bad stress, let's understand the definition first. Stress is defined as a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.

Now, how can stress be good for you? Researchers believe that some stress can help to balance the immune system, improve how the heart works, and protect the body from infection. This is called eustress meaning beneficial stress. I’m going to assume that stress in moderation is good depending upon the dosage (inserts should shrug here). Whatever the case, my next question is how you are monitoring your stress and what types of management tools are you utilizing.

To build and maintain a more resilient lifestyle with the capabilities of a strong bounce back one must know and understand themselves, can reduce stress and anxiety, and how to enhance relationships to name a few. Home life, work life, and adult life can all be stress, but you have resources to help and provide a balance. Here’s a couple of resources I would like you to utilize the next time your world feels extremely heavy on your shoulders:

1. Self-understanding: know when to stop refocus and regroup.

2. Positive self-talk: don’t allow negative thinking to dictate your day or life.

3. Mediation, Exercise, & Self-care: schedule time to relax and enjoy.

4. Adopt a more positive attitude: no matter what or how bad, keep pumping your subconscious with positive thoughts.

5. Self-management: organize both your physical and mental life.

Don’t allow your soul to become weary and drained. Life happens, and you must continue to move as the world turns. What will you do next stress kicks in your doors?

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Stress Management 

July 9, 2018

Who's interrupting your life right? Who are you allowing to disrupt your household, your marriage, your health, your finances, your children, your livelihood? Who...Do you feel as if the world is on your shoulders? Allow me to provide a couple of scenarios:

Sleepless nights?

Feelings of sadness?

Fatigue or lack of energy?

Difficulty concentrating?

Constant crying?

Body aches?

I've had all of the above symptoms and more. The problem: I was determined to carry the "weight of the world" on my shoulders. I know, makes no sense. But read all of this first:

I was so willing to take care of everyone else first. I honestly felt that was the "right thing" to do, especially as a woman. There's a misconception that's perceived by ladies that we must put others ahead of ourselves for whatever reason. That's what I did. I gave when I really didn't want to. I laughed when I would rather cry. I talked when I really wanted to be silent. I continued to give "all of me" day in and day out. Some were happy that I gave all of me. While others took me for granted as well as my kindness. I unintentionally placed people and situations on my back (figuratively speaking)- again, thinking its the right thing to do...

What is right: taking care of yourself first to take care of others. Placing yourself first before anyone else. Yes, it's true, you must love yourself first before you can love anyone else. 

Where do you begin? Start with YOU! 

Don’t allow your soul to become weary and drained. Life happens, and you must continue to move as the world turns. What will you do next stress kicks in your doors?

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March 8th, 2019

Yesterday, March 7th, I died twice mentally. My eyes were so swollen from crying that I had no choice but to lay down in bed and mentally rest. I was hurt, confused, and mentally troubled. I couldn't find the words to pray. All I can remember was asking God, pleading with HIM to disperse HIS Angels into my life. To send them with healing powers and wisdom. I felt broken, and I do not recall a time that I have ever felt that way in all my days here on this earth.

After I laid down and received the call that my mom was in an accident, I jumped up out of bed and raced down I-95. I was an hour into the ride when I found out that she was alright. As I drove, all I could think about was last week at The Leader's Conference and releasing the balloons. The purpose of releasing the balloons: to release anything negative and make room to receive.

Back to the story, I continued driving down I-95 with tears falling from my eyes. The car was silent, no music, and I could hear the sound of my tears hitting my shirt. Tears were everywhere. On my face, my cheeks, my streaming down my neck, just everywhere! I continued to drive 2 hours and 40 minutes.

The tears were a combination of many things in my life. Again, I never experience such emotions like that before in my life. And take it from me, I'm a Virgo, and we are emotional beings. Once I arrived and saw my mother at the hospital, hugged her, walked out with her in one "peace"- I felt a sense of "peace." At that very moment, I felt chills throughout my body, and all I could think about was all of the music from The Leader's Conference playlist. One song in particular, by Dennis Reed and Fantasia "Necessary."

As I returned home, I listened to that song on repeat for two hours and forty minutes. 

The lyrics are:

God sees your tears, and he hears your prayers. He knows all about your problems...The nights I've cried (the tears), the tears I've shed couldn't sleep at night, couldn't go to bed (the pain)...All of my mistakes...It was necessary.

Yesterday was necessary.

Yesterday was necessary.

Yesterday was necessary.

Yesterday was necessary.

Les Brown always say that if you fall, make sure you land on your back so you can see when you are getting up. Now that is so true. Today, I brushed myself off, and I decided to stand. I decided to stand for myself and release. Everything that I endured yesterday was necessary. It led me to this very moment.

We all will endure something in life, and I am here to remind you to heal but don't stay in that mindset for long. Cry if you need to. Scream if you need to. Cuss if you must but please never remain in the sunken place for long. Everything that happens in our lives is very much so necessary. Be strong and continue to be who you are. Continue to aim high and achieve your goals. Continue to turn dreams into reality! Know and believe that with every promise there's a problem.

I would like to leave you with this:

"Huge changes are up ahead. Everything is happening for your highest good. Prepare for massive shifts! Things are getting exciting!" Unknown 


May 21st, 2019


When you hear the word boundaries, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? I have realized that boundaries are important for safety. Think about signs as you are driving that warns you about detours or alternate routes. You take the proper precautions to prevent driving through boundaries. What if we set boundaries for ourselves, how would we live differently? What changes would that had to our day-to-day living?

Protecting your peace is setting boundaries. During your most vulnerable states, you should set strong boundaries to prevent others from taking advantage of you. Have you ever heard of the saying:

“Prey on the weak.”

How do you protect yourself and set strong boundaries? How do you maintain your inner strength when some individuals tug at your emotional being?

Here are three tips for applying with intention.

1. Spiritual relationship: building inner security and communication in what you believe. This type of relationship builds not only your chakras but assist with personal power, emotional support, and faith building.

2. Self-relationship: identifying and understanding who you are and what you stand for. This tip requires self-reflection and relationship with oneself.

3. Interpersonal relationship: all of the different types of relationships such as friendships, platonic relationships, family relationships, and professional relationships; having the ability to manage other relationships.

Apply to achieve. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose. 


May 22nd, 2019

Have you ever felt that no matter what you do, something is always lurking from behind? Have you forgiven yourself of past destruction and felt that you may be wrestling with karma? We have all been there at one point in time or another.

There’s a lesson in everything that we endure. Some of the most amazing people walking on this earth has felt that karma may have played a role in their present life. Of course, we are all amazing, but some of us dig deeper in life to address the focal point.

The focal point is where rays or waves meet after reflection or refraction, or the point from which diverging rays or waves appear to proceed. In a nutshell, the focal point is the center of interest.

Focus more on where you would like to be, your focal point. You are not living in karma; in fact, you are in a season of growth and learning. Both can be uncomfortable, and I ask that you stop being too hard on yourself. Learn the lesson, refuse to believe its karma, and focus more on your focal point. Alignment is necessary. Learn and move on into your destiny.